Love relationships require alot of patience.  What do you do if someone you love requests time and space to think about their issues?  Do you pressure them and risk making things worse or do you just give them the time and space they've requested?  If you are patient you give them the time and space they requested.  It is like the Chinese proverb says “If you love a thing, set it free.  If it returns to you, it is your's and if it does not, it never was your's.”  Patience.

Fitness endeavors require alot of patience.  Everyone wants a quick fix to their situation, but only patience will get you there.  It took time to gain the weight so it will take time to lose it.  Patience is about sticking to your plan and making it work.  It is about measuring progress and making small tweaks to put you on the right path. 

Patience requires that you practice self-discipline.  Do you think it is easy to give someone you love time and space?  What if they don't want you in contact with them while they take that time and space?  Suddenly you go from having that person as a large part of your life to them being a void in your life all in a split second.  Patience requires you to be disciplined about not contacting them because doing so would violate what they asked you for.  It isn't easy but it is necessary.

It is my belief that in order to draw your goals to you it will be necessary for you to forget some of what you've learned.  I think that too many of us read everything and then get confused over what goes with what.  This leads to disasterous results.  We need to organize our thoughts and forget some of what we've learned in order to properly utilize the important knowledge we've picked up over time.

Forgetting is not an easy thing to do.  I believe that for some reason the human brain is optimized to hang on to things.  How many times have you had an argument with someone only to have them bring up something from the past that they had “forgiven and forgotten”?  Obviously they may have forgiven you (hence they didn't argue their point any longer) but they clearly had not forgotten.  Forgetting just isn't that easy.  However, I'm here to tell you that forgetting is something you have to do to move ahead with your fitness plan.

Forget the awful habits you once had.  Forget the idea that food is comforting because you can't allow that to be the case any longer.  Forget that you hate working out because you need to workout.  Forget all the habits that brought you to your low point in the first place.

If you take your anger and channel it towards your workout I bet you will have a more intense workout.  You will attack the exercises.  You will show no mercy and take no prisoners.  Your anger will have improved your workout.  So channel that anger into your workout for renewed success.

You can't allow yourself to keep undoing the things you've done.  Just stop now.  If you relate to anything in that first paragraph do me a favor…step away from your computer and go somewhere you can be alone and vow to STOP.  Stop the madness now.  Don't let yourself fall prey to your own shortcomings.

Are you doing well with your nutrition?  Are you sticking to a plan and making progress?  Do you work hard at the gym?  Did you set goals and know you are going to achieve them?  You too need to STOP.  You need to stop doing things that derail you.  You need to keep your eye on the prize.  As the Bible says, you need to run the race with endurance.