M3:D82 Desire

One thing I need to point out is the tip in my hip in the June 1, 2008 photo that is not in the August 1, 2008 photo.  Ever since I had my back surgery I have had that tip in my hip.  Well, the active release therapy I've undergone the past 2 weeks has already corrected the hip issue.  That alone is reason to celebrate because the tipped hip always caused alot of pressure and tension on my hip area.  I was constantly feeling tension in that area of my body.  What else has changed?

I spoke today with Carlos DeJesus and it got me thinking about desire.  Nothing can be done with a person who does not desire the change you are trying to help them with. No matter how motivational you are, if the person you are trying to motivate does not have the desire to change, you won't be able to make them change. 

I'm sure you've heard the phrase “You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink.”  That's the concept of desire.  If the horse doesn't want water, leading it to the water will not make it drink.  It is the same with coaching someone.  As the coach, you cannot want the highest good for them more than they do.  No matter how hard you try to hold them accountable to their goals, it is their own personal accountability that makes or breaks the plan.  If your child isn't doing his or her homework, you can stay in contact with their teachers and ride them to get their homework done, but if they don't have the desire to do the homework they will find every single trick to avoid doing the homework and to avoid you finding out about it.

The question becomes, if you lead a horse to water, why would you want to make them drink?  Shouldn't it come from within them?  If you make them drink, aren't you simply forcing your will upon them?